There are so many things that you need to stop doing to yourself. There are so many things that you just need to give yourself a break on. And there are so many things that you have done right- that you aren’t willing to give yourself credit for.
You need to let go of your perfectionism where you can. You need to give yourself the space to not be perfect and to understand that that will actually free you in the long run. It will not be easy, but it is something that will let you have more freedom in your life. The freedom that you have so craved, but never been able to really get to.
You need to focus on doing things that bring joy in to your life. That means understanding when you should help people, understanding when you need to walk away from things, understanding that there are going to be times when you have to take a leap of faith to get where you want to be. Letting go of that perfectionist trait just may help with this, but it also means that you have to remember to be vulnerable. You have to remember to just be sometimes.
You need to give yourself a break. You’ve done things that people would have never expected you to do. You moved across the country for a job. You took a different path. And yes, there are things in your life that have not panned out exactly the way that you want to, but you need to remember that a lot of those things are just out of your control. Give yourself a break. And enjoy where you are. Enjoy life as it is- right now- because that is all that you have at the moment. Understand that each moment will only be here once and you should be fully there for all of them.
You aren’t missing out on things in life because they have not happened yet. Things are just moving at the pace that you truly need. So be patient. Take time to step back and see where you are at the moment. Continue to love what you do. Continue to give in ways that make you a better person. Continue to care. Because all of those things, are the things that have brought you to where you are.
And finally- love yourself more. Love yourself as you are. Love yourself on the journey to where you want to be. You deserve that. And you need to remember that- because how you treat yourself is how others will treat you. So love the person that you are 100%, because that is what you deserve.